Today, I overheard a conversation between a group of boys that I needed to share on my blog. Here's how it went:
Boy 1: Dude, that girl was totally making eyes at me.
Boy 2: Oh, I hate that.
Boy 1: No, I mean it was good like "she totally enjoyed what we did on Saturday, and we should totally do it again next weekend."
Boy 2: Man, that never happens to me.
Boy 1: Well, I'm nice to them after we hook up. I make them breakfast in the morning.
Here is my message to these boys: Women deserve to be treated with respect, and respect does not equate to making us breakfast. Please stop referring to "them" a.k.a the girls you hook-up with as a generalized group as if they are cattle you can "herd" into your rooms whenever it is convenient for you. I do not mean to be judgmental to those who engage in "hook-up culture" because I feel that people have every right to make their own sexual choices, but there is a problem with the way these boys were talking about women. I think it is damaging that these girls are only seen as sexual objects, but then again, I do not know these girls, and I don't want to speak for them.
What have relationships come to?